Get anyone to like you.
Here are 10 tactics that will get someone to like you everytime and even trust you. The tactics here will even get someone to open up to you for intelligence gathering and getting to know the person. To use Social Manipulation you must learn and practice these basic tactics. Then we can begain to put them into strategies.
Tactic 1 Smile
The act of smiling can actually improve you mood, and certainly improve your body language. Practice smiling in the mirror to perfect this tactic
Tactic 2 Be Confident
People are attracted to other people that are confident and together or in control.
Tactic 3 Breathe
When meeting someone for the first time we tend to hold our breathe, this is unnatural. This translate body language as being tense and it make people have negative feelings around us.
So take several deep breathes before meeting someone. Studies show it is impossible to panic when we take slow breathes at the same time.
Tactic 4 Look people in the eye
When people look down they look shady. So alwys somply glaze into their eyes to give them the impression of trust and honor. You will look confident.
Tactic 5 open your arms
when you speak open your arms and expose you heart. This gives a heart warming impression. Its is know in body language that a bad sign is closed fist and crossed arms.
Once again to look natural practice in the morror.
Tactic 6 Align yourself with the person
A good practice is point your heart towards the person whom you are speaking with. Another open warm impression.
Tactic 7 move positive
When moving and walking look alive. Be happy and have a positive atmosphere and aura around you. This will have anyone not only liking you but wanting you around more often.
Tactic 8 Appreciate them
Act as if you are appreciative about there company. Again folks always wants to be around a positiv energetic person.
Tactic 9 Ask them to tell you about themselves
Everyone loves to talk about themselves. It makes them feel good, needed and interesting. This person will like you from the time you meet if you let them talk about themselves and what they like or believe. Even if you disagree with what they belieive pretend you agree ans win them over.
Tactic 10 Listen and validate
Listen to them and what they say. Learn all abou them. This is the key to manipulation is intelligence gathering. Plus they will be won over by someone who actually listens to them.
They will like you and TRUST YOU!
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Mind Control Tactics - social influence
Mind Control Tactics
Below are list of applicable mind control tactics that you can use daily to better yourself and devise plans to accumulate what you want or are after.
Please be reasonable in all that you do. Mind control is thought to be an evil practice. I don't think so. Everyday good and evil things happen to many people. This is a big step to self-help for folks who apply these tactics.
I believe if you want something bad enough then you should do your best to get it. If it's that important to you then you wont mind using manipulation and mind control tactics. This is part 1 and i will be writing more parts as the Blog grows. I hope you enjoy and learn something. Please come back for updates and other articles and feel free to comment as i want the feedback or even more tactics or advice from the readers.
The tactics used to create undue psychologica social manipulationl and social influence , often by means involving anxiety and stress, fall into seven main categories.
TACTIC 1
Increase suggestibility and "soften up" the individual through specific hypnotic or other suggestibility-increasing techniques such as:Extended audio, visual, verbal, or tactile fixation drills, Excessive exact repetition of routine activities, Sleep restriction and/or Nutritional restriction.
TACTIC 2
Establish control over the person's social environment, time and sources of social support by a system of often-excessive rewards and punishments. Social isolation is promoted. Contact with family and friends is abridged, as is contact with persons who do not share group-approved attitudes. Economic and other dependence on the group is fostered.
TACTIC 3
Prohibit disconfirming information and non supporting opinions in group communication. Rules exist about permissible topics to discuss with outsiders. Communication is highly controlled. An "in-group" language is usually constructed.
TACTIC 4
Make the person re-evaluate the most central aspects of his or her experience of self and prior conduct in negative ways. Efforts are designed to destabilize and undermine the subject's basic consciousness, reality awareness, world view, emotional control and defense mechanisms. The subject is guided to reinterpret his or her life's history and adopt a new version of causality.
TACTIC 5
Create a sense of powerlessness by subjecting the person to intense and frequent actions and situations which undermine the person's confidence in himself and his judgment.
TACTIC 6
Create strong aversive emotional arousals in the subject by use of nonphysical punishments such as intense humiliation, loss of privilege, social isolation, social status changes, intense guilt, anxiety, manipulation and other techniques.
TACTIC 7
Intimidate the person with the force of group-sanctioned secular psychological threats. For example, it may be suggested or implied that failure to adopt the approved attitude, belief or consequent behavior will lead to severe punishment or dire consequences such as physical or mental illness, the reappearance of a prior physical illness, drug dependence, economic collapse, social failure, divorce, disintegration, failure to find a mate, etc.
These tactics of psychological force are applied to such a severe degree that the individual's capacity to make informed or free choices becomes inhibited. The victims become unable to make the normal, wise or balanced decisions which they most likely or normally would have made, had they not been unknowingly manipulated by these coordinated technical processes. The cumulative effect of these processes can be an even more effective form of undue influence than pain, torture, drugs or the use of physical force and physical and legal threats.
Now you no right from wrong. You know if your gaining control of the situation and going over bored with things. However we live in a dark world where you need these tactics in your arsenal.
What you do with this information is not my fault nor my business.
Below are list of applicable mind control tactics that you can use daily to better yourself and devise plans to accumulate what you want or are after.
Please be reasonable in all that you do. Mind control is thought to be an evil practice. I don't think so. Everyday good and evil things happen to many people. This is a big step to self-help for folks who apply these tactics.
I believe if you want something bad enough then you should do your best to get it. If it's that important to you then you wont mind using manipulation and mind control tactics. This is part 1 and i will be writing more parts as the Blog grows. I hope you enjoy and learn something. Please come back for updates and other articles and feel free to comment as i want the feedback or even more tactics or advice from the readers.
The tactics used to create undue psychologica social manipulationl and social influence , often by means involving anxiety and stress, fall into seven main categories.
TACTIC 1
Increase suggestibility and "soften up" the individual through specific hypnotic or other suggestibility-increasing techniques such as:Extended audio, visual, verbal, or tactile fixation drills, Excessive exact repetition of routine activities, Sleep restriction and/or Nutritional restriction.
TACTIC 2
Establish control over the person's social environment, time and sources of social support by a system of often-excessive rewards and punishments. Social isolation is promoted. Contact with family and friends is abridged, as is contact with persons who do not share group-approved attitudes. Economic and other dependence on the group is fostered.
TACTIC 3
Prohibit disconfirming information and non supporting opinions in group communication. Rules exist about permissible topics to discuss with outsiders. Communication is highly controlled. An "in-group" language is usually constructed.
TACTIC 4
Make the person re-evaluate the most central aspects of his or her experience of self and prior conduct in negative ways. Efforts are designed to destabilize and undermine the subject's basic consciousness, reality awareness, world view, emotional control and defense mechanisms. The subject is guided to reinterpret his or her life's history and adopt a new version of causality.
TACTIC 5
Create a sense of powerlessness by subjecting the person to intense and frequent actions and situations which undermine the person's confidence in himself and his judgment.
TACTIC 6
Create strong aversive emotional arousals in the subject by use of nonphysical punishments such as intense humiliation, loss of privilege, social isolation, social status changes, intense guilt, anxiety, manipulation and other techniques.
TACTIC 7
Intimidate the person with the force of group-sanctioned secular psychological threats. For example, it may be suggested or implied that failure to adopt the approved attitude, belief or consequent behavior will lead to severe punishment or dire consequences such as physical or mental illness, the reappearance of a prior physical illness, drug dependence, economic collapse, social failure, divorce, disintegration, failure to find a mate, etc.
These tactics of psychological force are applied to such a severe degree that the individual's capacity to make informed or free choices becomes inhibited. The victims become unable to make the normal, wise or balanced decisions which they most likely or normally would have made, had they not been unknowingly manipulated by these coordinated technical processes. The cumulative effect of these processes can be an even more effective form of undue influence than pain, torture, drugs or the use of physical force and physical and legal threats.
Now you no right from wrong. You know if your gaining control of the situation and going over bored with things. However we live in a dark world where you need these tactics in your arsenal.
What you do with this information is not my fault nor my business.
Get people to like you
Get people to like you
Be Whoever You Need to Be
Mind Control Tactics
Today we will talk about a technique known as BUILDING RAPPORT.
Wikipedia.com says the definition of Rapport is:
Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being "in sync" with, or being "on the same wavelength" as the person with whom you are talking.
How to Build Rapport
Research has found that most of our communication with others is done via nonverbal means. In other words, although we may be talking with someone, only 7 percent of the total communication the other person receives is verbal. That?s right! Only SEVEN percent of what they receive are your actual words.
Our tone of voice, or HOW we say it, conveys a larger 38 percent. And the remaining 55 precept comes from our facial expressions and body language.
This is significant. This is VERY significant. The vast majority of our communication with someone, the vast majority of what they will pick up from you as they decide if they like what you say and do, comes from everything BUT the actual words you say. Instead, it's more important HOW you say it and it?s more important what you do with YOUR BODY when you say it.
* 7% - Words
* 38% - How words are said
* 55% - Body Language
There?s a statement floating around relationship-world that is entirely wrong: Opposites attract. This is just not true. People like people who are like them. When you first meet someone, what's the first thing you do? You talk about the weather, sports, music, whatever UNTIL you find something in common. "Oh my gosh! I LOVE the beach!" Once you find that commonality, the conversation kicks into gear.
Even in those relationships where they insist that they like the person because they are "So much NOT me" they will find many instances where they share many likes and dislikes. It?s the commonalities, the shared interests, which make a relationship work.
So, how can you get people to like you?
First of all, stop worrying about what to say. Yes, what you say is important, but understand that this is just 7% of the communication that matters. (Besides, it?s better to ask questions than to talk. The best conversationalists are those who ask a lot of questions and actually talk the LEAST.) What you want to focus on are the other parts of communication – the 38% of HOW you say things and the 55% of what you do when you say it.
Matching and Mirroring
The first thing you want to do when talking with someone is to match their tone of voice and how fast or slow they talk. If they talk quickly, then you should also talk quickly. If they have a slow drawl like a southerner?, then talk slowly with hems and haws. And if they talk loudly, then you must do the same. Likewise, if they talk quietly.
Think about this a bit. When was the last time you had a real nice conversation with someone? During this conversation, if that person was opening up their soul, talking quietly, intensely, slowly, really thinking about their words, were you responding with a loud tone of voice while talking real fast? No, you weren't. Chances are, you had the same tone and tempo.
Have you ever heard two girls talking and had a hard time distinguishing one from the other? "Oh my GOD, can you believe it? I?m sitting there, OK, like right outside of the Gap, and these two guys walked by and said hi!" "Oh my God!" "I know!" "They just said hi?" "Yes, and one was SO CUTE, can you believe it?" "No way! I can?t believe it. Did you get his number? What did he look like?" "Get this…" "OK!" "He goes to the same school as Jenny." "Get out!" "No, I?m serious!" "Way cool!"
(This was an actual conversation I overhead. "Way?" "Way! I am so serious.")
Try this the next time you meet someone you don?t know. Talk just like them and see how quickly they take to you. And what?s really interesting is that NO one EVER notices what you?re doing.
But the easiest thing you can do to build rapport with someone is to model their body language. If they cross their legs, you cross your legs. If they lean back, YOU lean back. If they act nervous and fidgety, you do the same. Whatever they do, you follow. This is the FIRST thing you should do if you want someone to like you or be comfortable with you (for example, in an interview).
This is such a simple thing and it works so well. And if you think it?s dishonest, then you haven?t paid attention to people all that closely. Go somewhere public. If you see two people having an intense, warm conversation, chances are there will be SOMETHING about their body language that is the same. And you do this all the time. The next time you?re with someone you like and you?re having a particularly enjoyable time, notice your bodies. Something will be alike. It?s really kind of fun to see all this happening.
In fact, the next time you have a great conversation with someone, observe the similarities between the two of you. Observe EVERYTHING – the voice, tone, tempo, hand gestures, body language, body position, everything. You will smile as you realize that what I describe is happening.
And what's even more interesting is that once you've built that rapport with someone, you can start LEADING them. For example, if the person is leaning up towards you with their hands separated and you?re doing the same, having a wonderful conversation, after a few moments try sitting back and clasping your hands. The vast majority of the time, the other person will AT LEAST sit back or maybe just bring their hands together, often both. It happens every time. It?s kind of fun.
Be Whoever You Need to Be
Mind Control Tactics
Today we will talk about a technique known as BUILDING RAPPORT.
Wikipedia.com says the definition of Rapport is:
Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being "in sync" with, or being "on the same wavelength" as the person with whom you are talking.
How to Build Rapport
Research has found that most of our communication with others is done via nonverbal means. In other words, although we may be talking with someone, only 7 percent of the total communication the other person receives is verbal. That?s right! Only SEVEN percent of what they receive are your actual words.
Our tone of voice, or HOW we say it, conveys a larger 38 percent. And the remaining 55 precept comes from our facial expressions and body language.
This is significant. This is VERY significant. The vast majority of our communication with someone, the vast majority of what they will pick up from you as they decide if they like what you say and do, comes from everything BUT the actual words you say. Instead, it's more important HOW you say it and it?s more important what you do with YOUR BODY when you say it.
* 7% - Words
* 38% - How words are said
* 55% - Body Language
There?s a statement floating around relationship-world that is entirely wrong: Opposites attract. This is just not true. People like people who are like them. When you first meet someone, what's the first thing you do? You talk about the weather, sports, music, whatever UNTIL you find something in common. "Oh my gosh! I LOVE the beach!" Once you find that commonality, the conversation kicks into gear.
Even in those relationships where they insist that they like the person because they are "So much NOT me" they will find many instances where they share many likes and dislikes. It?s the commonalities, the shared interests, which make a relationship work.
So, how can you get people to like you?
First of all, stop worrying about what to say. Yes, what you say is important, but understand that this is just 7% of the communication that matters. (Besides, it?s better to ask questions than to talk. The best conversationalists are those who ask a lot of questions and actually talk the LEAST.) What you want to focus on are the other parts of communication – the 38% of HOW you say things and the 55% of what you do when you say it.
Matching and Mirroring
The first thing you want to do when talking with someone is to match their tone of voice and how fast or slow they talk. If they talk quickly, then you should also talk quickly. If they have a slow drawl like a southerner?, then talk slowly with hems and haws. And if they talk loudly, then you must do the same. Likewise, if they talk quietly.
Think about this a bit. When was the last time you had a real nice conversation with someone? During this conversation, if that person was opening up their soul, talking quietly, intensely, slowly, really thinking about their words, were you responding with a loud tone of voice while talking real fast? No, you weren't. Chances are, you had the same tone and tempo.
Have you ever heard two girls talking and had a hard time distinguishing one from the other? "Oh my GOD, can you believe it? I?m sitting there, OK, like right outside of the Gap, and these two guys walked by and said hi!" "Oh my God!" "I know!" "They just said hi?" "Yes, and one was SO CUTE, can you believe it?" "No way! I can?t believe it. Did you get his number? What did he look like?" "Get this…" "OK!" "He goes to the same school as Jenny." "Get out!" "No, I?m serious!" "Way cool!"
(This was an actual conversation I overhead. "Way?" "Way! I am so serious.")
Try this the next time you meet someone you don?t know. Talk just like them and see how quickly they take to you. And what?s really interesting is that NO one EVER notices what you?re doing.
But the easiest thing you can do to build rapport with someone is to model their body language. If they cross their legs, you cross your legs. If they lean back, YOU lean back. If they act nervous and fidgety, you do the same. Whatever they do, you follow. This is the FIRST thing you should do if you want someone to like you or be comfortable with you (for example, in an interview).
This is such a simple thing and it works so well. And if you think it?s dishonest, then you haven?t paid attention to people all that closely. Go somewhere public. If you see two people having an intense, warm conversation, chances are there will be SOMETHING about their body language that is the same. And you do this all the time. The next time you?re with someone you like and you?re having a particularly enjoyable time, notice your bodies. Something will be alike. It?s really kind of fun to see all this happening.
In fact, the next time you have a great conversation with someone, observe the similarities between the two of you. Observe EVERYTHING – the voice, tone, tempo, hand gestures, body language, body position, everything. You will smile as you realize that what I describe is happening.
And what's even more interesting is that once you've built that rapport with someone, you can start LEADING them. For example, if the person is leaning up towards you with their hands separated and you?re doing the same, having a wonderful conversation, after a few moments try sitting back and clasping your hands. The vast majority of the time, the other person will AT LEAST sit back or maybe just bring their hands together, often both. It happens every time. It?s kind of fun.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
HOW TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS LYING.
HOW TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS LYING.
Thank you for reading and i hope you enjoy and learn as you go. Today we will talk about how to tell if someone is liying with one question.
We will be using a tactic known as CONUNDRUM.
Conundrum is a technique that works by introducing a piece of evidence and seeing how someone handles it.
With this known lets look at a example than can be used in a real life scenario.
Lets say a womenis suspecting her husband is not where he says he is. He said he was going out with his friends to see a movie. When he gets home tonight all she had to do is introduce a made up fact.
Such as: " Oh. I heard the that the traffic was all backed up tonight at the movie theater, was there a car accident or something?"
All she has to do is sit back and watch his reactions.
If he wasnt at the movies he doesn't know rather to acknowledge that there was an accident because there might not have been one. If he says that there wasn't much traffic and there was, then she'll know he wasn't at the movies.
Regardless of his answer he will do what every lier does when confronted with a CONUNDRUM!
HE WILL HESITATE.
If he was at the movies he would of just said," There was no traffic, what are you talking about."
Later on in another article we will talk further aout this tactic and use in in juction with other tactics and strategies. From Body Language to special cordinated and planned traps to set for anyone and everyone to control their emotions and penetrate their MINDS!
Thank you for reading and i hope you enjoy and learn as you go. Today we will talk about how to tell if someone is liying with one question.
We will be using a tactic known as CONUNDRUM.
Conundrum is a technique that works by introducing a piece of evidence and seeing how someone handles it.
With this known lets look at a example than can be used in a real life scenario.
Lets say a womenis suspecting her husband is not where he says he is. He said he was going out with his friends to see a movie. When he gets home tonight all she had to do is introduce a made up fact.
Such as: " Oh. I heard the that the traffic was all backed up tonight at the movie theater, was there a car accident or something?"
All she has to do is sit back and watch his reactions.
If he wasnt at the movies he doesn't know rather to acknowledge that there was an accident because there might not have been one. If he says that there wasn't much traffic and there was, then she'll know he wasn't at the movies.
Regardless of his answer he will do what every lier does when confronted with a CONUNDRUM!
HE WILL HESITATE.
If he was at the movies he would of just said," There was no traffic, what are you talking about."
Later on in another article we will talk further aout this tactic and use in in juction with other tactics and strategies. From Body Language to special cordinated and planned traps to set for anyone and everyone to control their emotions and penetrate their MINDS!
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